July 10, 2009

Assvice please

Hi, I'm Nikki, and I'm a chronic spender.

I hardly ever spend my money on me, mostly it's on other people. It is not uncommon for me to come home with bags and bags of goodies for other people. If I see something that I know a friend would love, I buy it. If my husband happens to say "that's nice", I buy it, if I know someone has a thing for cows, let's say, and I happen upon a cute coo beasty trinket, I buy it! You see the trend here?

Nothing gives me more joy than giving people stuff! I LOVE it, it's a drug!!!!!!

The problem is that hubby says I'm neglecting myself. I can't get him to understand that it's nice to have a new camera for me, but I'm overjoyed at buying him his spray gun/compressor thinga that he's wanted forever.

Am I neglecting myself? And if I am, how do I find the balance?

4 comments:

Kim said...

sjoe that sounds like me ... DH also said I neglect myself ...

I even tried buying something for myself and just closing my eye and swiping ... I tried him buying something for me with my money ... but the I still feel guilty ...

when u get the resolution lemme know ...

mwah

Mandy said...

Nikki, I am sure your love language is gift giving. There are different kinds of love languages and yours obviously is the giving of gifts. If that is what makes you happy then you shouldn't stop doing it. Just makes sure you don't neglect yourself, you need to love yourself too, by buying stuff for yourself as well.

Martie xxx said...

mmmmm...im the same. I guess we feel guilty buying ourselves things "thinking" someone else needs it ore than we do!!

iF YOU FIND THE BALANCE PLEASE LET ME IN ON THE SECRET! XOXO

Hope852 said...

Oh Nix you are just such a nice gal xxx

I tend to do that all the time for my kids ....