March 10, 2010

One Week After Diagnosis

Dear Jordan,

One of my friends, Kandis, suggested Dad write you a diary. Your father was never good with words, and because of this, he jots down notes for me to write in this space.

We have chosen to write this diary for you together, because together we made you, together we love you, and together we are a family. We have also decided to put it up for people to see, because without these people, some who we have met, and some who we haven't, the validation of Dad's life would be incomplete. I will have these entries printed and bound for you when this chapter of our lives is closed, and this will be a testament of how much Dad loves you for eternity.

It's been a week since we heard the news that Dad was sick with cancer. It's been a week of ups and downs, times where we cry together for the things we will lose and other times where we all stand back and laugh at Dad for his stubbornness and determination. At times I think people may think us callous because we still dare to laugh, but that is the essence of who your father is as a person. He always says he doesn't mind people making fun of him, because they're leaving others alone.

Dad is still very sore from his surgery and drains and has caught a little bit of flu with his weakened immune system. Not to be outdone, you have developed rivers of snot and a nasty cough. We maintain you've done it on purpose so that you can get away with doing this

instead of sleeping in your own cot.

We received some very good news this week, that Dad's cancer has not spread to his bones, and that although his hips are still very sore, we can treat them for the correct issue. This is the 1st positive diagnosis we've received on his hip in almost 11 years. We took you to the oncology ward on Tuesday for the follow up. Yet again you proved what an amazing little boy you are. There wasn't a sick person waiting there that you didn't walk up to, touch, fake laugh or smile at. In a room filled with such sadness, you made every one of them smile. Dad was so very proud of you and I had to fight with him not to pick you up and strain his wounds.

We have been doing enquiries into going on Dad's dream holiday. Unfortunately you'll be too small to come with, but there are still so many places you and I will see together.

This week we are positive that Dad is getting better, he is already becoming belligerent again and that is a very good sign.

Remember we love you forever and always our special son,

Dad and Mom

15 comments:

Melanie said...

Oh Nix, I am in tears reading this! You are a remarkable woman! again, I am so sorry that you have to go through this, that your DH has to go through this! You are still in my thoughts & prayers!

xx

Sharon said...

This brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful idea for your son!

Evelyn said...

I think this is a wonderful idea my friend!
Thank you for allowing us to be a part of this
x x x

Martie xxx said...

Jordan, Your Mommy and Daddy are 2 of the most amazing people I know. Why your Mommy? Because your mommy is such a remarkably strong, understanding, positive being. Your daddy? Your daddy is in so much pain and has received the most terrible news ever and what does he do? He laughs and tells people that he is glad they are talking about him as it saves other people from being spoken about. He is amazing. Your daddy is such awesome man!

I cannot wait to see you again in 2 weeks time. Thank you for looking after mommy so well and for being a good boy.

Lotsa love,

Aunty marthie

Mandri said...

Nix, this is so so special! This is something that will be cherished forever!

Marie-L said...

Tears here also, what an awesome idea. Jordan, you could not have asked for better parents and if I could find a dad for my son that is half the man your daddy is, I would be very happy. Nix, you my not see it, but there is a virtual circle of hands joined in prayer for your family.

Paula said...

Such a good idea nix, Jordan will treasure it forever. You and your family are in our prayers, love P

Jesson said...

Prayer can help to get up, this really brought tears on my eyes. keep on going

theclam said...

*sniffle* Oh my gosh that is so amazing, Jordan is going to so apprecaite this when he's big enough to understand it.

Thinking of you and praying for you all.

xxx

Cupcake Queen said...

I don't know you or your family....but I will pray for your husband and the amazing strength you have as a wife and mother. You will be in my thoughts and prayers...

Lilian January said...

Oh Nix, this is truelly an awesome idea. You are one brave woman and your dh a brave man. May God bless you even further with more good news xoxoxo

Megan said...

Oh nix, i'll be a good subject for the twinsaver advertisement right now. you are such a remarkably strong women, like i have said before. I don't know why you have been chosen for this horrible journey, but what i do know is that you deserved this wonderful man and Jordy without a doubt deserves wonderful parents such as the two of you.

i'm here for you if you need anything..

xx

Landie said...

oh hun, this is so beautiful!!
the wise people say that laughter is the best mediacane!

we are will always pray for syd, jordan and you! you are so strong and i admire you for that!!

love you!!

Tebogo said...

Sjoe, i am lost for words. You are a very strong woman. Reading this made me realise dat indeed life is too short.

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